‘You’re not to go to that wedding’: Man Get Invited to Be Groomsman At a Wedding the Day Before His Wife’s Due Date, She Draws Boundaries

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 11, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back wedding aficionados. Weddings can be the experience of a lifetime. From the joy of seeing your loved one get married, to experiencing one big celebration with free booze. There's just something special about it. Not attending a friend's wedding can be a big deal, but truth be told, sometimes there are just more important matters at hand. 

Let's say your friend is getting married, and your wife is having your baby. Bad luck for these two crucial, life changing events to take place simultaneously, but sometimes that happens. In this case, it's obvious to put your wife first. Not only because she's your wife, but it's unrealistic to expect her to be in the delivery room all by herself. This woman is right for expecting her partner to ditch the wedding for the birth of their child. It takes two to tango and he is an equal part in this. Read the story below for yourself. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH ⚫ 15 hr. ago precious-strawberry Aitah for telling my partner he couldn't be in a wedding that falls the day before my due date?
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  • 02
    Me and my partner are expecting our first child later this year. He had been asked to be a groomsman in this wedding prior to us finding out we were expecting. I had asked him for the first few months to find out the date of the wedding and when he finally did we of course found out it was the date before my due date. I told him how I didn't think
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  • 03
    it was a good idea that he be apart of the weddding party as he would have to be traveling for bachelor party, gone for the weekend of the wedding etc. he got upset and said that this was one of his close friends. This friend I had never even heard of before he was asked to be in the wedding and mind you we have been together almost 4 years
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  • 04
    already at this point. I'm my partners culture the wedding is a big commitment of your time and I think it would be unwise to be in it. He told me I might not even have the baby on that date and I said exactly. I could have it before and then I'm to be left alone with a newborn for two days? Idk aitah?
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  • 05
    Update: my partner has agreed to not be in the wedding and attend it. I voiced concerns about the what ifs and he said he understood. I think he was initially just upset to be missing out on the wedding, which is understandable I would be as well. But he definitely has made it clear he doesn't want to miss the
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  • 06
    birth of our baby. I was really just wondering if I was in the wrong for feeling the way I do about it. I had mentioned to some of his family members that he was most likely not attending/in the wedding anymore previously and they seemed shocked so I was just curious to know if I was in the wrong.
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  • 07
    Bulky Specialist9... • 14h ago NTA. Now you know his friend is more important to him than you or the birth of his child!
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  • 08
    amw38961 • 13h ago Break it down.....ask him straight up "what's more important....this wedding or the birth of your child" and then move accordingly.
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  • 09
    Honestly, it seems like he KNEW the wedding was close to your due date and just didn't tell you b/c he knew you would say no. He was already planning on going to that wedding...time to plan an exit strategy babes...
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  • 10
    Talk to friends and fam to figure out where you will be staying (or change the locks), let him go to the wedding, and be GONE when he returns from the wedding. B/c I'd be over it atp.
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    celticmusebooks • 14h ago So you've never heard of this "friend"--so this guy wasn't in your husband's wedding party or invited to your wedding? I'd find that pretty suspicious. Sounds like an "acquaintance" who upgraded him to "friend" because he was short on groomsmen.
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    • kmflushing 14h ago Baby's not here yet, and he's already being a bad father? This does NOT bode well for the future. I'm sorry, OP. How do you get him to prioritize you and your baby? The fact that you even have to is distressing.
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  • 13
    You have a bad husband, and he is turning out to be a bad father. I hope for your sake, he comes to his senses.
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  • 14
    Unfair-Research-... • 14h ago So it begins, prioritizing his fun over his family, I am sorry in advance future married single mom
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  • 15
    she_who_knits • 15h ago NTA, and I'm shocked you have to tell him something that is obvious common sense. Have the bride and groom been told your due date? They may ask tell him to bow out because they don't want the risk of disruption.
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    Have the bride and groom been told your due date? They may ask tell him to bow out because they don't want the risk of disruption. He'd be over everyone by insisting it's doable. It clearly isn't.
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  • 17
    fatcakesabz 14h ago NTA, I missed the funeral of one of my mentors who was also a really good friend because unfortunately it would have meant 2 days away 2 weeks before my, now, wife's due date with our first child. Pregnancy
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  • 18
    due dates are just an estimation and happens. If he chooses to put the wedding above you and your child then that should. be saying something to you. If he chooses to ignore your concerns then I would suggest the night he goes, if you haven't already given birth, get a really spicy curry
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  • 19
    down you to try and kick start labour, when he misses the birth of his first child see how he likes that
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  • 20
    Tall-Negotiation... • 13h ago NTA. He's essentially telling you he considers this wedding more important than his child. Looks like you picked a real winner to have kids with I think you need to have a honest talk with him about how this is making you feel and how
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  • 21
    you don't find his behaviour acceptable. And remember the way you both handle this will set a standard for the rest of your life.
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  • 22
    Laquila 15h ago There shouldn't have been even the slightest hesitation for your partner to say no to the wedding. He's about to become a father and he's more into wanting to party with some "close" friend of his? And what about you? You could go into labor. I'm
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  • 23
    sorry but your "partner" isn't. much of a partner, and he doesn't have his priorities figured out. NTA.
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